Meal times were special occasions in the Victorian homes and eating started with making sure that you were properly dressed for the event. While you could dress down slightly for meals at home, any face dining event that took place after 6Pm was automatically a formal occasion. Ladies were anticipated to wear low-necked gowns with short sleeves and gloves. Married woman opted for satin or silk while the unattached arrived in muslins or chiffon. Men always wore dark broadcloth and "fine linen."
Male guests were each assigned a female guest to escort into the dining room. The host always escorted the top ranking lady, a newcomer to the area, a new bride, or the wife of a powerful guest. The hostess was escorted by her husband's company partner or best friend.
Formal Dining Room Chairs
The formal Victorian dinning room might be called a banquet hall today. It was normally quite large and lavishly over furnished as was the custom of that time.
There were allinclusive decorations along with heavy attractive furniture pieces, stuffed birds in cages, ceramic and china figurines, potted plants and a huge mirror among other items. The centre of attention was always the finely set table of abundance in the middle of the room.
Perhaps the term "finely set" is an understatement. The goal of the hostess was to display every piece of fine china, stemware and silver she owned, so it wasn't uncommon to find 24 piece place settings along with up to eight separate forks each with their own special purpose. Add to that an supplementary 8 knives, game shears, 7 pieces of stemware for water, wine, sherry and more, a evening meal plate, and a bread plate containing a singular piece of bread, and you'd think that there couldn't perhaps be room for the food; but they found a place anyway!
Most formal Victorian banquets were like an all-you-can-eat buffet except you sat down and the endless stream of up to nine courses were brought to you instead. Ample time was allowed in the middle of courses for conversation and digestive processes.
Once the meal was over, the servants brought water-filled finger bowls each containing a slice of lemon. The hostess signalled that it was time for the woman to leave the table by making strong eye experience with the woman seated to the host's right and then standing up. A servant or colse to gentleman opened the door to let the woman retire to the drawing room while the men whether remained at the table for more conversation or withdrew to the library to enjoy a fine cigar and a glass of port.
Victorian society dictated that each invited guest, whether they beyond doubt attended or not, should call upon the hostess in someone within a week after the event to pay their respects. custom allowed that men who were too busy with company affairs could send their card via their wife or an additional one female relative.
Yes, it all sounds like a bit too much work just to enjoy a good meal, but these were separate times when pomp and circumstance still held a special meaning. Who knows? perhaps we could use a minuscule of that back in our lives today.
Victorian Dining And Dining Etiquette